Saturday, June 26, 2010

18 Going On 21

After pondering the reasons for me being single, I've come to the realization that nobody takes 18-year-olds seriously -- and with good reason too. I resist dating boys my age for the same reason that guys resist dating me. Us teenagers carry the stigma of immaturity, and no one wants that in a relationship. Before I turned 18, I thought that once I reached the legal voting age, I would be given some credit in society, but it turns out that even 21 is deemed to be young and deficient of life experiences.
I searched on Connexion for gay boys between the ages of 18 and 19, and came up with 5 hits in Provo... One of them my 34-year-old friend pretending to be younger. I attribute the few numbers to inner turmoil and missions. Few gay men, especially here in Utah Valley, come to terms with themselves at such a young age, and for those that do, few know what they want in life.

Because of all this, I've decided to put dating on the back-burner and focus more on making friends and continuing my education-- at least until I pack on a few more years and lose the pesky "1" as I approach my 20's. That isn't to say that I'll give it up entirely; I just won't be too date-crazy for a while.


  1. When I was a teenager, I was always in such a huge hurry to grow up. I too thought turning 18 would somehow automatically give me entree into the adult world. You're right, no such luck.

    On the other hand, I like your plan. No hurry anyway. Plenty of time for dating. And I can definitely see why you don't find many available guys your age. I can only imagine the risk that poses where you live.

    For what it's worth, I think of you as an adult. And the more you think of you as an adult (see "I searched on Connexion for gay boys between the ages of 18 and 19"), the more adult-like you will become.

    But there's no single line you will cross. I am more mature and know more of life than I did when I was 18. And when and if I make it to 60, I'll know more, and be more of an adult, still.

    Enjoy life Twinky!

  2. Good girl. About time you realized this.

  3. There was probably so few hits because people know what the honor code office can do to them, and lets be honest: gay mormon boys are terrified that they are gay.